tumblr is honestly one of the creepiest places on the internet
we have so many people fetishizing gay people especially the “fangirls” oh my god i hate the stupid fucking fangirls they’re always treating peoples’ sexualities like objects
i cannot count the times i have seen posts on my dash about how when they grow up and have kids they will be obsessed with their gay son/ship him with his best friend/encourage him to be gay and how many times they wish that a certain celebrity or character was gay because it’s “hot” like please stop being so creepy and utterly intrusive to satisfy your own sexual fantasies
like these are the people who claim they “love” gay people and support them and reblog the annoying as fuck “REBLOG IF YOU AREN’T HOMOPHOBIC!!! XDDD” posts with the millions of rainbow gifs and wowie zowie but in reality they just see them as sexual objects
believe it or not a gay relationship is more than fucking in the butt okay it’s no different than any other relationship my god get your heads out of your asses gay people aren’t your sexual entertainment you creepy little shits
Okay. Let me start by saying that I completely agree with this persons statement. It is very intrusive the way some people objectify other peoples sexualities, and it should not be okay in any way. These people should know that its not okay.
However, why is it that people agree that fetishizing gay men is “creepy” and “stupid fucking fangirls”are constantly “treating people’s sexualities like objects”, when women, mainly homosexual women,are supposed to accept male objectification of lesbians as 100%, completely fucking normal in every way?!?
The notion that “most”(not trying to generalize) heterosexual men enjoy watching lesbians having sexual encounters is pretty much a culturally accepted, even commonly referenced and joked about thing in tv shows, movies, and every day life. I can even remember instances hearing about/ being at parties where girls were encouraged, by guys,to make out for the enjoyment of the males at the party. I can’t even begin to imagine the ridiculously vast amount of lesbian porn that exists on the internet, let alone just on tumblr.
And yet, this is completely normal. Its “natural” for guys to look at lesbians. Its innocent, quirky, and something that girls are expected to roll their eyes and smirk at.
But if a girl fetishizes a gay man, its “creepy, utterly intrusive”, and are apparently considered weird freaks of nature that are annoying, weird and offensive.
I’m not saying that this argument doesn’t make a valid and often ignored point. What pisses me the fuck off is that the fetishizing of female homosexual sex is considered a fucking fact of life for girls and women. The fact that men like to watch girls touch each other is fucking shoved into our brains from every fucking media outlet, and we’re expected to not find this totally fucking creepy and weird in the same way?
I am a straight girl, and yet I have had an innumerable amount of experiences where men have joked about being turned on by lesbians, and have even experienced guys trying to pressure my friends and I to make out in front of them. But considering all this, I cannot even begin to imagine how troubling the fetishizing of lesbians in our culture would be if I was in a relationship with a woman, rather than a man.
Theres nothing wrong with enjoying certain fantasies. I mean, you like what you like, to each his own, none of my business.
But I will not sit here and read this and ignore the fact the hypocrisy that the number of women who fetishize male homosexual sex/objectify their sexuality are not exactly the fucking same as guys who use lesbians as their “sexual entertainment”.
So next time you hear some guy talk about how awesome it would be to see female celebrity A make out with female celebrity B, don’t think that you’re not allowed to find it just as intrusive and fucking creepy as a woman talking about male celebrities. Because the objectification of a persons sexuality is horrible, no matter what their gender is. Just because one is a culturally accepted, promoted, and commonly depicted doesn’t mean you’re not allowed to speak up about how it makes you feel.
Reblogs again for the excellent commentary. Very, very true.