“I need the gay community to STOP comparing our struggle to the Black Civil Rights Movement. You DON’T get to draw that comparison and then remain SILENT when the civil rights of Black teens are being violated. I mean, where the fuck are y’all?!?! Yay! For Ellen Page coming out at an lgbt youth conference. I was there. I sang right after. But THAT should not have been our focus yesterday. How in the hell are we having conferences to inspire our youth to live their truths and then have absolutely nothing to offer to THIS conversation???? Dear White Gays, I am HEARTBROKEN by your continued silence on these issues and I DO NOT give you permission to high jack the Civil Rights Movement while simultaneously IGNORING the inequalites that youth of color face every fucking day. It is culturally insensitive to do so and we are either fighting for EQUALITY for ALL or we aren’t. As an LGBT woman of color, I am having an extremely difficult time grasping WHY Matthew Shephard’s life is so much more valuable than Trayvon’s or Jordan’s????!?!?! Help me understand, y’all! Help me understand.”—Frenchie Davis exposes a simmering frustration many African Americans have with the lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender community. (via odinsblog)
“Femininity in general is seen as frivolous. People often say feminine people are doing “the most”, meaning that to don a dress, heels, lipstick, and big hair is artifice, fake, and a distraction. But I knew even as a teenager that my femininity was more than just adornments; they were extensions of me, enabling me to express myself and my identity. My body, my clothes, and my makeup are on purpose, just as I am on purpose.”—Janet Mock, Redefining Realness (via lovelyandbrown)
white boys who respond to criticism of racism and sexism by ominously saying that there are ‘bigger problems’ scare me. like what is this big secret problem and why won’t anyone tell me about it? are we going to be eaten alive by mutant sharks? are oranges secretly poisoning us? who knows. the white boys, apparently.
a friendly reminder: COLLEGE IS NOT FOR EVERYONE - people who went/go to college are not ‘better’ or ‘smarter’ than anyone else - there is no right time to pursue ‘higher education’ - no matter what, you are still a person and you deserve to be treated with respect
“Saying all women are distractions to men only serves to objectify women and reduces them to shiny trinkets, merely functioning to interfere with men reaching their full potential. Which is utter bullshit.”—ithinkimhahlurius (via equalityandjunk)
Reminder that the word ‘psychotic’ refers to people experiencing psychosis or to the experiences themselves and is not a general insult to use against violent people
The idea that mental illness and violence are linked is unfounded and leads instead to further stigma and violence, please do not immediately label someone as psychotic or otherwise ill or disabled to describe violent behaviour for it perpetuates this falsehood
Fun Fact: Just because someone has a wheelchair, doesn’t mean they can’t walk. A lot of people benefit from a wheelchair because they can’t balance well or it is too painful to walk. So if you see a person briefly stand out of their wheelchair, or take a few steps, or even if you see them with a wheelchair sometimes but not always, it doesn’t mean they’re faking, and you shouldn’t call them out on it.
its rly important that nonbinary people know that it’s okay to like gendered things and that nonbinary people can have gendered pronouns and nonbinary people can have gendered names and if ur reading this and ur nonbinary u can be whatever the fuck u wanna be and be called whatever the fuck u wanna be called bcs u r so strong and so amazing
“As black feminists from the ’70s onward sought to expand racial, gender and economic equality for women of color, they found themselves being left out of mainstream conversations about equal pay and reproductive rights. Their stories were left untold in a women’s rights movement, led by mainly white women. Tired of being silenced and fueled by an international movement for human rights, they began the reproductive justice movement to bring to light the fact that communities of color lack access to basic healthcare and pregnancy options, including the opportunity to raise our children with dignity. They demanded that our stories be heard, and their demands still affect how we think about policy today.”—
Never forget, it was black women who developed “reproductive justice" and a black woman who coined "intersectionality.” Black women have long been at the forefront of civil rights and social justice movements, yet it’s our white activists that get the spotlight.
A lot of us have plans involving treating our future children with more receptiveness, respect, and empathy than our parents treated us, but I wonder how likely that is to come true when we’re still talking to ourselves in our parent’s voices?
Compassion seeks roots in the self.
Improving your self-talk is so important, for yourself and for the sake of any future kids. Turning my inner voice into a narrator instead of a critic has probably saved my life.
hello!! earlier you reblogged a text post from tumblr user adultsupervisionpls who is a self-proclaimed radfem and if you take a look at their blog you can see that they make/reblog rly incredibly transphobic posts like a post about how equating periods to the female gender is not cissexist and a post calling trans women nasty and i didnt want to go further than that but yea!! their text post was true but this person in general is just not good just wanted to let u know!!
Oh gosh, there are so many radfems that I don’t know about :( I need to make a list. Thank you, I’m removing it now. <3
I’m real tired of seeing skinny white kids painted as THE AVERAGE QUEER. Like please show me a curvy Indian agender kid from Brooklyn, a hispanic lesbian and her black girlfriend. A trans demisexual dude from Korea. GIVE ME SOMETHING OTHER THAN LANKY PALE PEOPLE WITH COLORFUL HAIR PLEASE GOD.
a guy at school today was wearing this damn fine red nail polish and I heard these two girls whispering angrily and looking in his direction so I listened in expecting them to be weird about it and the first thing I hear is “how the HELL did he get it so good did he get it professionally done or something you need to ask him where he found that colour jesus fucking christ are you KIDDING me”
I think this is a good example of how the world should work.
i hate when guys say shit like “why would you cut your hair? guys dont like girls with short hair” thats like watching someone else make a sandwich for their self and saying “why are you putting tomatoes in it? i dont like tomatoes”
The problem that needs to be fixed is not kick all the girls out of YA, it’s teach boys that stories featuring female protagonists or written by female authors also apply to them. Boys fall in love. Boys want to be important. Boys have hopes and fears and dreams and ambitions. What boys also have is a sexist society in which they are belittled for “liking girl stuff.” Male is neutral, female is specific.
I heard someone mention that Sarah Rees Brennan’s THE DEMON’S LEXICON would be great for boys, but they’d never read it with that cover. Friends, then the problem is NOT with the book. It’s with the society that’s raising that boy. It’s with the community who inculcated that boy with the idea that he can’t read a book with an attractive guy on the cover.
Here’s how we solve the OMG SO MANY GIRLS IN YA problem: quit treating women like secondary appendages. Quit treating women’s art like it’s a niche, novelty creation only for girls. Quit teaching boys to fear the feminine, quit insisting that it’s a hardship for men to have to relate to anything that doesn’t specifically cater to them.
Because if I can watch Raiders of the Lost Ark and want to grow up to be an archaeologist, there’s no reason at all that a boy shouldn’t be able to read THE DEMON’S LEXICON with its cover on. My friends, sexism doesn’t just hurt women, and our young men’s abysmal rate of attraction to literacy is the proof of it.
If you want to fix the male literary crisis, here’s your solution:
straight people: i don’t need your ‘hypothetical’ arguments about my rights. you know why? because for me, they aren’t hypothetical. for the millions of people who actually do think like that, they’re very real.
i don’t need you to be the devils advocate, to try and argue the other side just for the sake of it, because everything you’re saying, i’ve already heard. a dozen times. a hundred times. coming from people i love and respect, from my government, from the police force and now i get to hear it again, as if it being ‘hypothetical’ makes it any more pleasant.
so please, in the name of all that is holy, shut up.
A girl in my Sociology class turns around during a class activity on goals to start a conversation with me. Her opening line is: ‘I want to get married.’ I nod and smile. She does not ask me my goals, just continues telling me the sort of guy she’d like to be with and how many kids she’d like. Thoughtfully, she adds, ‘My mom told me to meet someone and marry them. You don’t wanna date around because you wanna be fresh for the guy and not a….you know what.’
My cousin’s Facebook ‘About Me’ lists things she would like in a man. There is nothing about her or the things she does, only qualities she finds attractive. ‘Looking for someone who can play the guitar and cook a great dinner,’ she wrote. I can hear her bubbly, singsong voice while reading it. She is thirteen years old and has told me that girls ‘oughta only kiss their husbands and that’s it.’ When I ask her what she wants to be when she’s older she says, ‘Married.’
My male friend tells me that he has no problem with what girls do, but that he would not date a girl who’s ‘been around’ because she’d be ‘dirty.’ I wonder if each time someone touches you, a part of you is soiled. If there are piles of dirt in the spaces where others’ fingers once rested. In the shower, I try to scrub the smell of dirt from myself, but come out, still polluted, with red scratch marks all over me.
Being a ‘you know what’ taught me some things: that I do not want to be touched by somebody who will judge my past. That I am not a tally book, with others’ names burned into me. If you have to label me as something, let it be a human being.
”—A “You Know What” by Lora Mathis (via coyotegold)
“I understand that Arab/ Muslim women have a long, rich history of struggle and resistance, both against patriarchal religious orthodoxy and Western imperialism. In fact, since being in the United States, I consider myself proudly allied to women like Suheir Hammad, Nawal El-Saadawi and others who speak out against imperialism, genocide and racism. But I can’t forget or ignore the racism and imperialism endorsed by many Arab/Muslim women against South Asian women in the Middle-east. Thousands of Sri Lankan, Filipina and Indonesian women work as domestic labour in Arab/ Muslim households, and the realities of sexual assault, abuse and violence are rampant”—
South Asian women are constructed by Emirati/Muslim society as sexually wanton, as lazy, as stupid; in fact, they are constructed much in the same way that Black and Latina women have been constructed in subjugation to whiteness in the US. I have seen, and experienced this racism firsthand when I lived in Dubai. In many ways, Emirati/ Muslim society aspires towards whiteness by colluding in the negative racialization of workers from South East Asia; westerners and Emiratis are openly paid three times as much as Asians in Dubai. My aunt worked at HSBC for decades, and when she quit, they hired an Emirati woman at twice my aunt’s salary, and with more benefits.