Last night I read an article in a woman’s magazine that included women’s letters to their own bodies. They were confessions of love, and I wanted so desperately to be able to address one to you. I want to construct you an ode and read it to your stretch marks and ingrown hairs, but I can’t.
Here is the petition. Australia has no residential treatment program for eating disorder sufferers. We has very few hospital beds in both the public and private system and every year people die from eating disorder complications. Currently waiting lists for a bed in a hospital for an eating disorder can be 3+ months which can be 3 months too long. If there had been a residential eating disorder clinic 2 of my friends might not have died and I might not have organ damage because we could have gotten more appropriate intensive treatment.
So I am asking you to please take 2 minutes from your day and sign this petition and share this message.
I love your post on Jennifer Lawrence and I agree she needs to be called out on her shit but as far as her talking about her weight and her eating habits, I don't think it's really your place to say she's not fat. She has been called overweight countless times by the media so she's responding to that by saying that she loves to eat and that it's okay to love to eat. A lot of people develop eating disorders as teenagers and she's speaking out against that.
I think the problem is that she speaks out against eating disorders by calling out the people WITH eating disorders, not people CAUSING eating disorders. Like OK, she’ll say “it’s weird that hollywood categorizes me as fat” as an observance, and then in the same conversation say shit like “anorexics are just crazy omfg wtf.” It goes with her whole misunderstanding of mental disorders.
I’m sure she’s been called fat, but let’s be honest, if Amber Riley or Gabourey Sidibe went on the record talking about how “omfg I love to eat” they would immediately be slayed by tumblr and the rest of the internet. Why? Because those women (notably, BLACK WOMEN) are actually, ACTUALLY considered “fat.” Jennifer Lawrence says “I’m so considered fat’ and everybody is like “OMFG BODY POSITIVITY NO SHE’S NOT AT ALL SHE’S BEAUTIFUL” and she got cast as mystique (a character that is literally in the nude all the time) and Katniss Everdeen (a character literally described as “too skinny to be pretty”). There is no way Amber Riley would have been cast as Katniss. That’s the difference.
So it’s actually super, super harmful for a person with Jennifer Lawrence’s body to go around saying “I’m such a fat kid” when actually on the scale of body size, she’s considered normal. In fact, her appeal is “I’m so normal.” So the way she addresses weight issues is incredibly harmful and ignorant.
“As terms like womanism, intersectionality, and women of color enter the mainstream, it is important to remember that they do not exist in a vacuum. They were created by Black women to address the ways in which we feel excluded from mainstream feminism. Kimberle Crenshaw, Patricia Hill Collins, Loretta Ross, Audre Lorde, and bell hooks are more than names to pluck convenient quotes from when it suits you. They are Black feminists, and they are part of a long tradition that can be traced back to Ida B. Wells-Barnett and beyond. So when your idea of feminism in 2013 harkens back to the racist, sexist rhetoric thrown at Wells-Barnett by Susan B. Anthony and Frances Willard, then what kind of movement are you trying to build? If your definition of feminism is rooted in Mammy myths, what can be built with you? Are you fighting for equality for all, or your right to be equal in oppressing Black women?”—Mikki Kendall (karnythia), "For Black Women, Everything is a Feminist Issue" (via so-treu)
“Princeton University psychologist Susan Fiske took brain scans of heterosexual men while they looked at sexualised images of women wearing bikinis. She found that the part of their brains that became activated was pre-motor - areas that usually light up when people anticipate using tools. The men were reacting to the images as if the women were objects they were going to act on. Particularly shocking was the discovery that the participants who scored highest on tests of hostile sexism were those most likely to deactivate the part of the brain that considers other people’s intentions (the medial prefrontal cortex) while looking at the pictures. These men were responding to images of the women as if they were non-human.”—
The Equality Illusion (via lesilencieux)
BUT SEXISM ISN’T REAL Y’ALL WE’RE JUST MAKING IT UP. THIS ISN’T LITERAL OBJECTIFICATION. NAH. (via longdivisionnnn)
“Fucked-up people will try to tell you otherwise, but boundaries have nothing to do with whether you love someone or not. They are not judgments, punishments, or betrayals. They are a purely peaceable thing: the basic principles you identify for yourself that define the behaviors that you will tolerate from others, as well as the responses you will have to those behaviors. Boundaries teach people how to treat you, and they teach you how to respect yourself.”—
prioritize trans women. prioritize fat trans women in your body positivity and fat acceptance. prioritize butch trans women in your celebrations of fucking with gender roles. prioritize trans women of color anti-racism activism. prioritize trans women.
Stop using ‘genderqueer’ to mean ‘DFAB’ and only including it in lists like ‘transmasculine, genderqueer, boi’. It also belongs on lists like ‘transfeminine, genderqueer, trans women’. Probably more-so on lists that don’t associate it at all with one binary category or the other (DFAB or DMAB).
Also, stop using ‘androgynous fashion’ to mean ‘DFAB and wearing menswear’. I mean, you probably look really cute in that blazer, but … yo. I look more androgynous when I wear earrings than when I don’t. I look more androgynous when I wear tight shirts or camis than when I don’t. I look more androgynous when I wear makeup than when I don’t.
When I wear a blazer, I look like a fucking dude.
Don’t universalize your specific narrative into a grand narrative. It erases folks.
i’ve received messages from DMAB people who aren’t sure if “genderqueer” is a word they can use. it is, and that it’s not is a misconception.