i’d feel bad for miley if she was just expressing her sexuality and getting picked on for it (which she is bc people are shitty)
so yeah im gonna criticize her
Non-binary DMAB people exist, y’all
Stop using ‘genderqueer’ to mean ‘DFAB’ and only including it in lists like ‘transmasculine, genderqueer, boi’. It also belongs on lists like ‘transfeminine, genderqueer, trans women’. Probably more-so on lists that don’t associate it at all with one binary category or the other (DFAB or DMAB).
Also, stop using ‘androgynous fashion’ to mean ‘DFAB and wearing menswear’. I mean, you probably look really cute in that blazer, but … yo. I look more androgynous when I wear earrings than when I don’t. I look more androgynous when I wear tight shirts or camis than when I don’t. I look more androgynous when I wear makeup than when I don’t.
When I wear a blazer, I look like a fucking dude.
Don’t universalize your specific narrative into a grand narrative. It erases folks.
i’ve received messages from DMAB people who aren’t sure if “genderqueer” is a word they can use. it is, and that it’s not is a misconception.
Do you support the LGBTQ+ community or do you support the CGWM (cis gay white male) community? There’s a difference.
About the “One Tiny Hand” meme and ableism
Often I post or reblog things that may be unclear to many people, and I am not averse to explaining myself in more detail (when I have the spoons) when approached with respect and genuine interest. As per usual, I do not have any advanced learning in social justice, nor a firm grasp on the accompanying terms and tropes, so chances are there are many people who can (and I hope WILL) say/write this better than I, or at least add on to my statements below.
With regards to the meme and blog “One Tiny Hand”:
This is not a new meme, It was really popular back in the beginning of 2012, and has since spread to ads and all manner of social networking. I personally believe it’s was at least partially influenced by the Scary Movie 2 character “Hanson” (played by Chris Elliot) whose only plot relevance and ‘jokes’ revolved around how abhorrent and disgusting the other characters found his “baby hand” to be. SNL followed suit in 2008 with Kristin Wiig playing a character with two “baby-doll” hands, again with “deformity” being the only joke. Around the advent of the blog a redditor posted a “One Tiny Hand” of the recently deceased Kim Jong Il and linked to the new tumblr, and Buzzfeed caught on, posting ““Kim Jong Il, Emasculated By One Tiny Hand” (x)
While the dubiously dubbed ‘creator’ (and runner of the “One Tiny Hand” blog) admits that manipulating photos in Photoshop to make one hand appear much smaller than the other was a “hilarious” past time to him, he further claims that “this sincerely has nothing to do with any disability or group of people.” (x) and reports receiving positive feedback from people with Poland Syndrome (which is a congenital difference that most often affects pectoral muscles and internal organs, not just arms/hands)
Unfortunately this “joke” relies on a fairly common group of congenital hand and arm differences as a punchline. The fact that able-bodied people look at a person with one hand smaller than the other and their only reaction is laughter and mocking is ableism at it’s finest. As this ‘joke’ relies on the assumption that all people’s bodies look similar and those bodies which do not fit the “human blueprint” closely enough are worthy of derision makes it ableist….and frankly, sad. Further, the bolded accusation above of emasculation (by a Buzzfeed writer) shows societies underlying drive to de-sexualize people with disabilities, and specifically the un-manning of men with disabilities. (Big feminist post about this to follow at some hazy point in the future)
*I also feel the need to note that much like every privilege, able-bodied privilege is often invisible to people who experience it. I am not saying you are a bad person for finding ableist things funny, but it’s important to critique the media as well as the world around us and look at the underlying reasons WHY these jokes are socially acceptable despite being harmful. (Especially when you seem to be the only person who can tell the Emperor is naked)
**Also also, I am not the final arbiter of what is or is not ableist, like any minority we are vast and varied and often of HUGELY differing opinions, so please just DON’T come to my inbox to argue
The important points are bolded for you tl/dr’s